I Am Not Your Guru | Week 46 | Confidence Revolution
Have you ever dated someone you knew was NOT THE ONE? Me too.
Remember that feeling of KNOWING YOU HAD TO DO SOMETHING, CHANGE SOMETHING, but not having the courage to rip the band aid off? Me too.
And have you noticed that that same awkward feeling comes back when you know you’re in situations you shouldn’t be in?
For some of us, the knowing manifests as a queasy feeling, for others anxiety, for others teeth grinding, for others overeating and for others, busyness. Our truth always comes out – somehow. Our minds and bodies and spirits KNOW – we have to make a change, or else.
The other day I watched, I am Not Your Guru, a film that gives the viewer an inside look on Tony Robbins and his life changing seminars.
During the seminar they focused on a lady who was having trouble in her romantic relationship and over a series of questions, Tony determined that the man she was dating was NOT THE ONE, and suggested she break up with him.
He challenged her to call and break up with him – right then and there – in front of everybody. And she did.
It was incredibly awkward to watch.
Later when asked why he urged her to do it in that very moment he said, “Most people think change happens over time, but change happens in a moment.”
He went on to explain that in order for someone to “take the leap” or “make the shift” their mind, bodies and spirits ALL have to have reach this magic THRESHOLD. And once they are all “there” it is of utmost importance that the person take advantage of the moment – because if too much time passes – the energies start to diffuse and fall further and further from threshold level.
That’s why most people think change takes time, because their energy levels flirt with “the threshold” and then diffuse, and flirt and diffuse, and they are on that continual cycle until finally (if ever) the person decides to change.
The magic is knowing when all systems have reached the threshold, and taking ACTION right at that moment.
Yet, each of us have different thresholds for how much pain we need to be in to finally make ‘the change.’ Whether the change is finishing something, starting something or changing something.
So the next time you feel like you need to -- make a change, start a blog, end a relationship, start a relationship, declare your love, change your circle of friends, eat better, stop drinking – whatever it is that is nagging you, that is looming over your head – the next time you feel fired up – know that that sense of being fired up will fade and take advantage of that moment when your mind, body and spirit are saying NOW.
Don’t suppress your feelings, make those changes, don’t waste any time.
I know you can do it, but will you?
love and grace, catia
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How to Get People to Change | Week 43 | Confidence Revolution
Have you ever tried to get your girlfriend so stop dating the ‘bad guy,’ or have you ever tried to get your co-worker to do it the ‘right way?’ Maybe you’ve tried coerce your husband into going to church -- or maybe you’ve tried to convince your Aunt to vote for the RIGHT candidate. (ha!)
Trying to get people to change is the worst. But why?
You have ALL the answers. You are a #confidencerevolution champion! You know how to be vulnerable, how to create boundaries, how to love fiercely, and on and on. Don’t your friends and family know just how much you can help them?
Trying to force people to change has been a weakness of mine for a long time. I come from a good place, but sometimes I’m also kind of bossy. Shocker! ( I'm a work in progress.)
When I'm having a tough time, these are the things I remind myself of:
- Live in joy
- Be a good example
- Love them
- I have to live what I believe, not just talk the talk
- Remember that everyone gets ‘there’ in their own time, if they get ‘there’ at all.
- My path is not for everyone
The reason we get so excited about new information we’ve learned or a new way of thinking is because it worked for us. It helped us. It bettered us.
And we want those we love to also experience this goodness. BUT we have to remind ourselves that we don’t control their behavior – the most we can control is the way we live our life and hope that the byproducts of our new found ways (joy, peace, love) are enough to pique curiosity and maybe even ignite a spark of change.
So rest easy, living in your fullness and your joy is all the convincing people need.
love and grace, catia
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