Succeed in Relationships | Week 9 | Confidence Revolution
Succeed in Relationships
"Don't they know my way is better?" "Didn't they learn the RIGHT way to take care of a baby?" "Doesn't he know birthdays are supposed to be filled with presents?" "Doesn't she know that you're supposed to have one job forever?"
When we come into relationship with someone, we bring our own thoughts and ideals. And each of our thoughts have been shaped by decades of action, inaction, and experience. So often we go into battle on our high horses over the "right" way of doing something - and drama ensues.
Most of the tension is caused by what we "think" things should look like. Is anyone with me? There's no mandate that says we HAVE to do things the way our best friends do them, or our parents did them, or the way magazines tell us we should be doing them. One of the secrets to freedom is, we get to DECIDE what works for us.
We all want thriving romantic relationships, friendships and work relationships - or else we wouldn't enter into them. So let's set them up for success, let's invest in them.
Let's actively contribute to the well-being of our relationships by figuring out how we'd like things to look and feel and then by (wait for it....) asking for what we want! Our husbands and wives and friends love us, they just see the world differently. So let's make it easy for them to fulfill our emotional needs.
And let's ABSOLUTELY reciprocate. OR we can be extra awesome and ask them what they need and want -- first! We can begin the communication. Compassion, consideration, kindness and thoughtfulness go A LONG way.
Hey guys - if you're looking to feel better, feel happy and feel confident - I have something for you.
I 100% wrote this in service of you. I want you to find joy in everyday life!
Love!
How to Accomplish Goals | Week 8 | Confidence Revolution
A few years ago I ran a marathon with my brother, Carlos -- a full one! 26.2, guys. It was crazy.
The thing is, I am the least athletic person YOU will EVER meet. I have trouble catching a highlighter yellow softball. So when I signed up for the marathon I knew I had my work cut out for me.
Instead of getting overwhelmed with the thought of running TWENTY SIX POINT TWO miles in a row, I broke it down into tiny increments. Tiny. For example, I would tell myself, "You only have to run to the next mail box," or "You only have to make it to the next stop sign." And somehow I always managed --because if my goals were running 100 or 200 yards at a time, it was no problem. But if my goal was running for 4.5 hours straight - I would just cry.
And since then, that's how I have approached life. Teeny tiny increments. And at every point, I congratulate myself and set the next goal. This strategy has helped me eat better, nurse my baby for a year, run a marathon, write a book, and even re-organize the kitchen!
Set a goal, break it down and let your goals craft your decision making. Sometimes we can take two steps forward and one step back, and that's okay. But sometimes we have it in us to take 2 steps forward and then 1 more step forward and then 1 more step forward.
Don't be afraid to give up the good, to go for the great. -Steve Prefontaine
Take some deep breaths and make this week count. :)
Guys - if you want to feel better, feel happy and feel confident - this gift is for you.
I made this 100% to be of service to you.
Love!
What would Kate Middleton do? | Week 7 | Confidence Revolution
What would Kate Middleton do?
Nice to see you today!
Do you wish other people would treat you better? Are you tired of that old friend or family member disrespecting you?
Today's mini lesson is one tactic that helps build standards for the way YOU treat yourself and for the ways OTHERS treat you. I didn't quite know how to do that - so today I share with you how I pulled myself out of a streak of junky relationships.
We experience the universe at the level that we are at. If we rise in thought AND in action, the universe rises to meet us. Let's make the decision to rise!
We all learn a few different ways. I am a visual and social learner - as evidenced by today's video. If you're not sure how you learn best, click here and do some exploring. This may help when you're taking on new challenges!
And don't forget we're building a library of video goodies. You can go back to them whenever you need a little life boost! Video library here. If you're on You Tube be sure to subscribe!
You are blooming into the fullness of your best self.
Do you wish other people would treat you better? Are you tired of that old friend or family member disrespecting you? Today's mini lesson is one strategy on how to build boundaries and expectations for the way YOU treat yourself and for the ways OTHERS treat you.
You are ENTIRELY loveable | Week 6 | Confidence Revolution
You are entirely loveable.
I know you're busy and I am so proud of you for taking time for yourself.
By participating in the #confidencerevolution YOU are bridging the gap between who you are and who you want to be.
This week I bring you Tattoos on the Heart and I talk about how when I found unconditional love, it transformed me.
Unconditional love allows us to set down our armor and exist without looking over our shoulder. Unconditional love is the foundation of courage. Unconditional love melts away who we are not and leaves us feeling safe about who are.
When we know that we are loved unconditionally, we are set free. And unconditional love starts inside each one of us.
Oh and some great news -- you are not only loveable, you are WHOLLY loveable. How awesome is that?
This 8 minute video is information for your heart. Maybe take a short walk around your neighborhood tonight and absorb the nurturing and encouragement OR listen to it with a hot cup of coffee OR chocolate. :)
By participating in the #confidencerevolution YOU are bridging the gap between who you are and who you want to be. This week I bring you Tattoos on the Heart and I talk about how when I found unconditional love, it transformed me.
Would you like a ham or turkey sandwich? | Week 5 | Confidence Revolution
Is your week going alright? I hope so! I had Mexican food last night so I'm a happy camper.
Today I am sharing with you what two things you can focus on that will help you make decisions you feel good about and that you are proud of. I describe how you can build a life you LIKE and even LOVE.
When a decision is on the table, listen to your inner voice, you are wise beyond your years. Your mind and body KNOW what to do, you just have to have to get still enough to listen and have enough courage to follow through.
This is kind of turning into an online classroom, who knew? Podcast coming soon in April! Let me know what you like and love and things you're looking forward to!
And let's all say a prayer for Mr. Peyton Manning! :)
Today I am sharing with you what two things you can focus on that will help you make decisions you feel good about and that you are proud of.
Don't feed your subconcious Hot Cheetos | Week 4 | Confidence Revolution
Friends!
So far we've talked about what the #confidencerevolution is, why I'm pumped about it and why we will succeed. If you're new, welcome! Take a few minutes to watch videos 1-3 and soak in the goodness.
In this week's episode I talk about our mental chatter box and just how much power it has over us.
I also suggest a book that CHANGED my life for the better and how I think it can help you too.
With every teeny tiny modification you are changing your life for the better. I am proud of you!
If you're new, welcome! Take a few minutes to watch videos 1-3 and soak in the goodness. In this week's episode I talk about our mental chatter box and just how much power it has over us.
More is Caught than Taught | Week 3 | Confidence Revolution
Guys, week 3! I hope you're making the most of your time today. Love the ones your with, it all goes by in a flash.
This week's video is a peek into WHY I started all of this in the first place (I'll give you a hint, she's tiny and has crazy bed head from her nap) and how I think it can be of value in your life.
"The wound is the place where light enters you." -Rumi. Y'all, the light entered big time for me. Don't be afraid of hurting, it always pushes us further along.
Airport encounter | Week 2| Confidence Revolution
Why you will succeed.
We're on the road to increased self-esteem! I'm thrilled to be trekking together. Guys, increased confidence relieves so much.
This week's video has to do with originality and success and real life.
Let me know how you're feeling and about any progress you've made. And as always I'm available for specific questions.
